Reflecting & Dreaming

You either love ‘em or hate ‘em... New Year's Resolutions.

No matter how you feel about them or if you participate, it’s the end of the year and people are filling up their news feeds & journals with their goals. 

I ,for one, LOVE making New Year's resolutions. I live to set goals and meet them. Setting goals for the New Year helps me reach higher and work harder than I would have without them.

For the past three years, Jay and I spend some time reflecting on the past year and dreaming about the future. He shared a couple of weeks ago on his blog about our process; make sure to check it out. 

This past Friday was that day, we sat down at Starbucks and walked through 17 pivotal questions. Here are some of the highlights...

1. What are my fondest memories of 2013? 

  • Spending the week with my family at my Granny’s bedside and having some very sweet moments with her before she passed.
  • Deciding to take a significant step towards having a child by deciding to become foster parents. 
  • Deciding to be open about our infertility issues, which have allowed us the opportunity to connect with others who are having the same struggles.
  • Our vacation in Savannah, GA which over the past two years has become our favorite spot.

2. What were the “big projects” I completed during the year?

  • Completed the process to be licensed to fostering.
  • Started a second job, Premier, and completed 20 parties within 3 months. 

3. What were the defining moments during the last year?

  • Our decision to adopt/foster before doing our infertility procedure.
  • We started aggressively saving for our infertility procedure.
  • The passing of our Granny and the conversations that took place.
  • Transitioning our yearly budget to a monthly budget.

4. What did I procrastinate on and fail to get done?

  • Didn’t work out 4 times a week.
  • Our budget wasn't as strict as it should have been.

5. What books and mentors had the greatest impact on me? Why?

  • I Was Broke & Now I'm Not by Joe Sangle helped me realize our yearly budget was not working. We weren't sticking to it because it wasn't working. It helped me transition us to a monthly budgeting and even more so, weekly budgeting. 
  • Empty Womb & Aching Heart by Marlo Schalesky helped me realize that I wasn’t crazy (not completely) and the thoughts I have concerning our infertility are legitimate and normal. It also helped bring some perspective and helped prepare me for going public with our struggle. Without this book, I would never have done it.
  • The Women of Christmas by Liz Curtis Higgs helped me see Christmas in a new way. I viewed it this year from a woman longing to be a mother and how God sees that. Christmas was about two miraculous pregnancies; Elizabeth & Mary. Nothing is impossible for God.

1. What are my greatest dreams for 2014? 

  • Hope to have a foster child in the process of adopting them by the years end.
  • Read at least one book per month.
  • Increase our giving.
  • Create more traditions & special moments for our families.
  • Have at least 50 Premier parties completed.
  • Most importantly, end the year closer to God than I am now. I want to reach new levels with Him.

You can find Jay’s highlights here.

If this has got you thinking about your New Year's goals, check out the entire list of questions and spend some time getting ready for the New Year. 

Let’s make 2014 one for the books!